I wanted to post this question – challenging as it is to answer – because I feel like articles like these often end with "we need to do something!" without any clear to do.
Then you go to write an article like this and realize that a clear to do doesn't exist. If it did, we'd surely all be doing it.
So instead, I open it up to discussion. No it's not as clear, but maybe that's the point.
I think we need to keep talking about hate in our communities, whichever communities you consider yourself a part of. We have to share the experiences that make our friends pause and say, "... wait ... that's fucked up." The more we do this, I think, the more we rewire the brains of ours that learned to accept that disrespect and hate were just things we had to deal with – and deal with silently.
Having these conversations also checks our own biases too. Doud, for example, telling me in his article to consider why I have the preferences I say I have has been one in a series of moments that have poked and prodded me to really reevaluate why I swipe, date, and talk about guys the way I do.
If you think you're exempt, you're not. It's time to discuss.
I wanted to post this question – challenging as it is to answer – because I feel like articles like these often end with "we need to do something!" without any clear to do.
Then you go to write an article like this and realize that a clear to do doesn't exist. If it did, we'd surely all be doing it.
So instead, I open it up to discussion. No it's not as clear, but maybe that's the point.
I think we need to keep talking about hate in our communities, whichever communities you consider yourself a part of. We have to share the experiences that make our friends pause and say, "... wait ... that's fucked up." The more we do this, I think, the more we rewire the brains of ours that learned to accept that disrespect and hate were just things we had to deal with – and deal with silently.
Having these conversations also checks our own biases too. Doud, for example, telling me in his article to consider why I have the preferences I say I have has been one in a series of moments that have poked and prodded me to really reevaluate why I swipe, date, and talk about guys the way I do.
If you think you're exempt, you're not. It's time to discuss.